Why Do Men Pull-away, Become Distant and How Can You turn it Around?

Usually when a guy pulls back or "ghosts a woman", it’s because she is demanding a lot of his attention and reassurance, and that makes her unconsciously do things to push him away. As a woman, you shouldn't try to change your behavior, instead try to change how you feel, but do it the right way.

My definition of being needy (or too demanding) is that your emotional needs are not met, and you’re expecting someone or something to fill them in for you

You might be thinking “what’s wrong with wanting to feel a certain way?”, the answer is “nothing”, in fact, it’s good that you’re aware of what you want. However, not to the extent that you lose yourself to get it.

Most self-help books will tell you go find a hobby or sport, something outside of yourself. It does help, but not for long.

Feeling needy is actually caused by you not allowing yourself to feel the emotions you need from within, so you seek them from the outside. The real challenge is in identifying what's holding these emotions back from nourishing you. You need to understand why you're disconnected from these Emotions within yourself.

There is nothing wrong with wanting someone to make you feel a certain way, but that responsibility should not primarily lay on them.

Here is an example. I had a session with a woman, and as I was exploring when her feelings of neediness began, we found ourselves discussing her relationship with her dad. It was her belief that her dad (a man), has the power and ability to provide the joy and happiness she wanted using money, and a lack of belief in herself and her ability to create financial security.

So, we looked at her beliefs about women, what they can and cannot do. We did some hypnosis to change deep rooted convictions regarding women's capabilities financially. Slowly, her family and friends started noticing a difference in her, they would say things like “you seem calmer” or “you look happier”, because she is more confident in "her" ability to create financial security, her happiness in life is not dependent on him anymore, its dependent on her. You can imagine how much less approval she requires from men at this point

She became more pleasant to be around, and less needy, which obviously would make any guy, or living being want to spend more time with her, and have him pursue her instead of the other way around.

If you want to get the same results no matter what you're struggling with emotionally, you must meditate everyday. You want to sit for 10 - 15 minutes a day, focus your awareness away from your thoughts, and on your breath.

doing this will create a balanced calm energy and freedom from neediness, I know this from personal experience.

The more you can find your own peace and fulfillment, the less you will need it from the outside.

Check out Eckhart Tolle’s Power of Now for more in-depth explanation on how to meditate.

Insecurities and neediness are not emotions you need to fight; they are signs that should direct your attention to work on what will make you more whole and complete as a person.

If you want more specific and clear directions be on the lookout for any upcoming workshops and posts on my Instagram @talal.alaboudi.